Are virtual friends really friends?

I see all the time, people writing on social networks and also writing sites,about how so and so virtual writer is their friend. So if you never met these friends in person, how can they be your friend? Writing is like playing in a virtual world, a written version of My Life, but without the walking around avatars, you get a picture of a still life version.

I personally think writing sites and social sites are just glorified chat rooms of old. Maybe more like over rated than glorified is more to the point. I've met some of those virtual people and many times I was disappointed. Many women can tell a lot of tales concerning the virtual men they have met, I bet.

So to me, a real buddy, or friend, is flesh and blood,not that flesh and blood people don't type, but they type a whole different personality than they really might be.

Remember when you got drunk with a virtual friend? Neither do I. Frankly, those who drink and type are probably very depressed anyway. Nothing sadder than a person who drinks alone, with nothing more to keep them company than a keyboard buddy!

Some guys

I always envied the women who picked better husbands than I had. Smart women. The kind of guys who took pride in having a wife and kids. Probably waiting to get married when one turns thirty is always a good idea.sure, some couples marry young and make it work, but relatively few do.

I had a fiance at 18 and 19 and he was a flaming alcoholic, a relatively worthless human being and I absolutely refused to marry him,child on the way or not. He never paid child support, and what sort of human being refuses to pay child support for their own kid? I was dumb enough to have two kids with this piece of shit and some of it was my own fault for thinking I was in love with that creep. He was a complete asshole in every way. Responsibility wasn't his bag, he was babied by his parents who should have kicked him in the ass a long time before meeting me. He forged no relationship with his kids, then later on, married some other dumb woman and had two more kids. I'm all for some guys being castrated, early on. Worthless lots, all ofthem!

The Man Hater's Club

There was a time I could definitely say I was the President of the Man Hater's Club. I am sharing this because women, young women,young single women need to take heed and beware of the men in this world that I cannot deem as anything but worthless, no matter how you slice it.

Never concede your power to any man!

Some men should certainly be castrated and some men probably should have been aborted before they were ever unleashed onto an unsuspecting world. But the last thing some men should have ever been is fathers. Some men simply destroy and poison the lives of everyone they touch. Simple as that.

The first totally worthless man I became involved with was when I was just a teenager. I had lived a pretty sheltered life and what in hell does a teenage girl know? I see teenage girls even in our modern day, taking up with,being infatuated with,and swooning over some of the most worthless guys I could ever imagine. Except, I know where those relationships will end up, as they always end up. With guys like that, they cannot help but end badly. Of course those hollow men will simply walk away but not until they have done everything in their power to destroy a woman's life. If you are a young woman, involved with a guy and are conceding to them, giving up your power, run,as fast as your feet will carry you, in the opposite direction. Those losers will land on their feet and of course they will cry baby tears, try to make you feel sorry for them, because that's how they operate. But honestly, you want to have a relationship that consists of feeling sorry for some jerk? Not if you are smart.

I will be adding to this blog site more about the worthless guys who are not worth the dirt on your shoes. Stay tuned.

If you are a woman who, like me, learned the hard way, by all means, comment.

Another day, another rule in the nursing home

Today there is a resident sitting in the front lobby, he is having a good time, looking out the big glass front doors and enjoying watching people come and go in the nursing home today. I say hello to him and smile, I enjoy seeing a resident enjoying himself and things are going fine until..................................yes, I get a call to go to the Administrator's office...............Again!

So what in hell is the problem this time...............I wonder to myself...............I soon find out. It seems the resident who is sitting in his wheel chair by the front doors is bugging the Administrator. She tells me 'he has his electric chair plugged in there and we can't be having that.' My first thought is.............many people living in this hell hole, would prefer the 'electric chair' to the damned rules imposed on them here. So I listen, getting more pissed off by the minute over what seems to me, to be a harmless activity for this poor old gentleman. Where's the harm? The only harm is that it makes the Administrator mad. She instructs me that I 'need to tell him he cannot sit there and that he can charge his chair in his room.' I just look at her and leave her office.

I come out of her office, smile at the guy who is charging his wheel chair, and say hi to him...............I walk right on past him. If she wants tell him anything, she can haul her fat ass out of her Administrator office and tell him herself. The wench!!!!!!!!!!!

A habit to be broken

I come to work today at St. Barley's nursing home and I barely get my coat off when the Administrator calls me to her office. I am told by her and the DON that a consultant will be gracing us with her presence today because the topic is going to be the behaviors displayed by too many residents. One resident in particular seems to be vexing the Administrator. The resident who is up all night, annoying the night staff and then sleeping all day.

I'm wondering what in hell is wrong with doing that? Are we here for the residents or are they here for us? I know the answer to that one, the residents are supposed to stop acting like individuals and supply this medical team with a paycheck and keep their mouths shut. Not all nursing assistants are bitches and dicks, nor all nurses, but the ones who work night shift seem to be. Why? Well during the day they would be expected to do their jobs. At night, no one else is here so they think it's cake walk time, sitting on their proverbial asses collecting an easy paycheck. Bunch of assholes, the majority of them.

The night owl lady is used to being up all night in her own apartment and sleeping all day. Where the eff does she have to go anyway? She loves the nighttime late night TV shows, but hell, St. Barley's have spoken so now she is expected to tow the mark and on top of it all, pay us to do so. Bunch of Bitches comes to my mind, with the Administrator being the head bitch.

Little wonder I chose the title I did, for my book.

WTF giving mortgages to 95 years olds

In my office there sits an elderly lady, she is well dressed, fancy jewelry and little white dog on her lap, the dog has a coat as fancy as the lady does. The dog is primped,little bow in its hair. The elderly lady has come to my office to inquire about applying for Medicaid for her husband who is a resident in our nursing home.

This lady looks like she needs Medicaid like a fish needs a rowboat, but here she is anyway inquiring. Her husband has come to our facility for rehab but now the therapy department is saying he must stay because he needs much more care than his frail wife can give him at home.

She is telling me they only get $2500 a month in pensions and she just cannot afford the $250 a day it will cost for her husband to stay with us. She tells me they have a $1400 a month mortgage payment for a house they bought two years ago.

This is how crazy the lenders were when the housing bubble was forming, hell no wonder it burst. Why in hell would a bank lend a mortgage to a couple who were 95 two years ago? Why in hell would 95 year old people take on such a huge mortgage? Did the banks think they would live forever, did the 97 year old couple thin they'd live forever? I hand her the papers, doubting in my mind that Medicaid will approve of the application since they won't consider $1400 a month mortgage within reason for allowing for food, clothing and shelter. I feel for the poor lady, I really do, but hell, what in hell were the banks thinking, unless, of course the bank has a life insurance policy on them or the bank gets to resell the house after the couple either both end up in a nursing home or they die.

Those blood sucking mortgage bastards! I really hate greedy people to no end and even more so when they take advantage of the elderly. I wish the lady luck, she's going to need it to get that application pushed through.

life before social networks

Wow! Probably life before social networking may just be something few people can recall. With all the recent flack about FB selling our information to people and privacy issues, it still remains very popular to this day.

I remember getting on the Internet in 1997, when my small town and all we had was *sigh* dial up, OH my! I remember drumming my fingers listening for that dial up sound to finally connect me to the Internet. I remember getting Net Zero and AOL discs in the mail to sign up and connect even to more networks and people. Well now we don't get those offers anymore, no one, or well hardly anyone, uses dial up now and why pay AOL for something everyone else offers for free (web sites) and now cable offers faster, lightening speed Internet services. Wow, that seems like eons ago now.

Many of us do not realize there is an entire generation of kids growing up who have never experienced what life was like without social networking sites. Whether this is a good or bad thing will be something for history to decide. Many today feel it may be a bad thing. Why? Well, some kids cannot spell, and maybe they will never be required to spell correctly, but by using text messaging all the time a their main forms of communication, they can write gibberish and never have to spell anything fully. After all, who wants to pay for extra words or extra letters when you don't have to? Can I buy a vowel please?

Another drawback to all of this social networking just may be an entire generation of kids who don't have very many social skills. Why, again? Well they meet on the Internet, they may use cams to see each other's faces while communicating, or not, but they still do not have those face to face interactions that people must use social skills for. When going to job interviews some may be clueless as to how to conduct themselves because they never had to use social skills. If social skills are not in their bag of 'how to' it is a pretty good guess they don't have a clue.

Before social networking, my kids actually went places to meet their friends. They went to malls, fast food joints, school functions, and even actually went to friend's houses. I know, shocking isn't it? Now all kids have to do is hop on a social network, update, in very few words, what went on with their day and check later on for responses from friends. Remember when kids actually called on a phone and had conversations, I mean really talked to friends, like one on one? Those were the 'good old days?' I have seen an answer to this question that was recently posed in the 'Requests' section and they said: 'life would go on,' or 'I'd be fine, life moves forward.' While that is certainly very true, would they really be fine with not being ale to use a social network? Let's face it, on FB you can keep in touch with loved ones, friends and even meet new soon to be, loved ones and not spend as much as we used to spend in a long distance call. So it has its economical side to it.

We all use electronic banking, we very seldom use snail mail, even advertisers seldom use snail mail when now they can use the Internet and even spam mail us all. My junk mail in my mailbox went down while my spam mail has shot way up. Snail mail has almost disappeared from our lives, so much so, the US Postal Service is nearly an obsolete entity in out lives now.

So many people have given up land phones for cell phone services,after all, you cannot take a wall phone places. There is an entire generation of kids who have probably never used a phone with a cord and I dare say many never knew phones with cords ever existed. Remember when we used answering machines instead of voice mail? Wow, what memories that brings back.

A community used to be defined as neighborhoods, houses and villages, now there are virtual communities, those communities that exist on line.

Types of virtual communities:

Internet message boards: these allow people to choose topics of interest and leave messages to discuss certain topics or ask questions of people and check back for answers to their questions. Anyone can become a member of this community even if they do not choose to share their thoughts. these are also known as forums. The downside of message boards is you have to wait for answers.

Online chat rooms: People wanted a way to convey their messages to each other in 'real time' so the online chat rooms were created. The upside of this is that you can instantly communicate with chat room members and you can choose chat rooms offering various topics of discussion, or those simply offering friendships and dating online.

Virtual worlds: These are worlds where you can choose an avatar and become anyone you want to be. these are popular in all sorts of online games. You can create your own fantasy worlds and even buy and sell items and make real money on some sites. Two avatars can even have intimate relationships online.



So, if the satellites went down tomorrow or even today, would you be devastated? Would you feel like life has come to a halt? These are interesting questions few of us ever think about in this new, electronic age of instant gratifications.